Romain Gherardi

Tears and doubts are normal and they are beneficial

In our virile world, it seems to be like we have to hide our emotions. Just be strong and don’t cry seems to be the belief.

What if those bad emotions could be hiding something special. What if tears and doubts are beneficial. That’s what I believe.

Many people might think that champion and successful people don’t cry or never doubt. And when we see Osaka or any other champions crying it becomes a hit on the media and people don’t understand why she cries.

However, the thing is crying and doubts are just part of us. They are our emotions. As sometimes life is overwhelming and the best thing is just to surrender and cry. And how do you feel when you let it go? Those tears weren’t beneficial?

So I’d like to talk more deeply on this topic that I’m really interested in and I like to talk to you about why I cry and I doubt often and why it’s beneficial!

I hope this post will help a bit many coming champions or anyone of you to accept it and keep having faith in you.

Accept your emotions

We all have emotions. You know at some point because I cried too much because I lost someone or because I broke up or because my business was failing and all happening at the same time. I couldn’t stop crying and doubting myself so I wanted to stop having emotions.

Is that the right thing to do?

I don’t think so. Because emotions are again judged as bad and good. Even if doubts or fear or not any other kind of emotions which seems to be bad can be good.

Follow me, please.

Emotions are natural, you can laugh, feel joy, feel love. On the opposite, you can also feel fear, doubt, and anxiety. However, all of this is natural.

No one in life hasn’t experienced what we call the good and the bad.

The thing is that we have to understand our emotions. Why that doubt is coming? Why those tears are running down my face?

The reason is maybe that I’m just sad and I just need to stop hiding from my emotions.

That’s how burnout came to me. When I was investing all my time into the company, I was driven, everything was happening around, good or bad, and I was driven. Like a robot. And I didn’t doubt or cry for a while. But suddenly here tiredness comes with the sadness and the doubts, and I cry as I couldn’t stop. Just another event happen and the glass is broken up.

Burnout might be not good for some, depression as well. But I think they might be here to teach us something. That’s what I believe about emotions.

Everything can seem good, and suddenly you are sad or in doubt. So that might be the reason that you need to talk truly and freely to yourself.

Understand your needs.

Maybe you need to change something to your approach. Or maybe this is not for you. Or maybe you just have to pass that emotion get more confidence and do it anyway.

So don’t put your emotions away. Understand yourself as this tear and this doubt might just be beneficial for your short or long-term life and goals.

Read –> Ways to gain self-confidence

It allows introspection

So when I got doubts, fear, or sadness I accept that emotion and I try to understand it as I said.

And often I do some introspection on myself and things in my life. I ask myself why I had this emotion. What I can do better.

We have toaccept what there is and even what happens inside us.

Sometimes I know what to do, sometimes not, but I try to understand it and then I get back up again. Other times I just talk to someone and I open freely to that person.

As I believe, It’s good to talk about what we experience because maybe the other person got into the same situation and can help you with that.

I don’t think it’s good to keep things for ourselves. It’s important to have an open heart to solve the problem. It’s beneficial cause if you trust and talk to someone then the other might trust you and open yourself to you too. In the end, both will help each other.

Read –> Don’t limit yourself

The beauty of crying

I feel like crying is beautiful. I see sometimes my partner crying and then laughing as I try to put her back up again. So she smiles at me among her clear and shiny tears. And I explained to her calmly that crying is natural. That’s what kids and we need to understand. Hiding our emotions are good on an individual and collective level.

Crying helps us to release the tension. Crying can open the heart of someone who has hidden it for a long time cause it wasn’t accepting his feeling. Then if we don’t release the tension and accept the emotion, we can be violent or we can feel suddenly a huge burnout. Or any other thing that we could have to understand or accept before the flood.

Try to hold your cry and you’ll see your throat getting smaller. It can even get hard to breathe. So crying is healthy as it will release the tension, accept the emotion and let the river flowing.

Read –> Don’t force it, Let it flow

Champion doubts often

Champions and successful people that you think doubt but it’s just that they might don’t talk about it. Like for instance, Tenis men are always in a competition like other sports or company and they don’t want to show their vulnerability to the other competitors. Cause they think they might show their weakness. That’s what you might think too.

But I believe that tears and doubt can you stronger. Cause you accept yourself totally. So you can show your doubts and you can show your tears. But then understand it and get back up again. You can lose a game, you can lose a set, but then you can win the match. You can win the grand slam of life.

But we have to understand what is important for us. Cause something might be important for others but not for us. And what won’t be important for them will be the happiness key for us.

As I say in a previous article on how to become a champion. You can fail, you can fail often but don’t be blocked, don’t stop. Don’t stop searching, don’t stop improving, don’t stop understanding, don’t stop using a different approach.

Tears and Doubts are beneficial

You know doubts and tears are like clouds and the sun is your smile, your love, is your whatever you call it. He will then always come back.

So go forward, fail, cry, doubt, experience life go what you want to go for, and just don’t give up. Get back up again on what you truly think is good for you.

Doubts and fear are normal they are life, they are part of us. As long as you play that new game, that you show to your difficulty that you can get over it. Life still goes on. Behind that “bad emotion,” something beautiful can be reached.

Feel the love, be self-compassionate, cry and go forward. Always love andbelieve in yourself. You are just a human being.

How to get into the habit of meditating daily step by step

Do you wonder how to get into the habit of meditating daily?

Well, studies and everybody around talk about how important meditation is, right? In fact in a world of constant distractions, notifications, technologies, social media etc… it’s actually quite important to recharge the battery and reconnect to what is pure inside us: our breathing.

So for many I wouldn’t use the term meditation but just the term of breathing. It’s just normal and natural to stop, close your eyes and breathe.

What do you think?

So if you are here reading this post you might ask yourself how to get to this habit which can be so much helpful in your daily life?

Let’s answer that and give you a tool that you can try right after you have read this article. So breathe… relax… and let’s get mindfully into it.

Here’s my step by step to get into your meditation routine:

Step 1: Schedule your daily meditation

It’s easy to repeat something when you know that you have to repeat it. Remember when you were at school. You came back from your day of high school, got to your room, and did your homework. It was planned so you did. If you didn’t do it then you were late on it or just missed doing it.

For many of us every day we wake up and we eat our breakfast, it’s important for us. We need to get something to our stomachs. It’s a schedule we do. Like brushing our teeth.

So schedule your daily meditation in a place where it is set and this is the only thing you have to do. After you get up, showering or before sleeping can be great. It’s useful to stick a new habit to a present one. So if you get your breakfast every morning do your meditation just after.

Step 2: Make it important

This is the second point. And it is essential that you understand it to succeed through your new good habit.

As said in the first paragraph with the breakfast which is important to eat to cope with the day. Make your daily meditation important as brushing your teeth or having a shower.

It is just something that you need to start to do regularly.

So, it will be good for you to write it down all the reasons why you want to start meditating. It might be because you wanna release the stress, or get more relax in your daily life, maybe because you read some study about it and you want to get the benefits of meditating. Get smarter, less anxious, more creative.

Anyhow, just write why you want to start meditation and why it is important for you to not miss your scheduled daily time.

Related –> The importance of breathing

Step 3: Find a perfect spot to relax

As you did find a perfect time to meditate, find the perfect spot as well. For myself, the perfect spot is in the corner of my bed. As soon as I wake up and get into my morning routine. I get to the kitchen, get a glass of water to wake up myself slowly and I get back to my bed, stick my back to the wall and meditate for 10 to 15minutes. It’s a routine, I feel comfy but not too much to not fall asleep and I focus on my breathing.

You don’t necessarily need to be on the floor or on a mat. All you need is to close your eyes, get your back straight as your head. Once that is done you can focus on your breathing.

You can even sit on a chair or lay down on your bed. If you are laying down I would recommend bending your knees it will help to be not to relax to not fall asleep.

Step 4: Don t ask too much to yourself

One important thing to get into the habit of meditating daily is simple to target the goal to meditate without time bounding. If you just succeed to repeat it for a week and do it only for 3 to 4 minutes. Well, you succeed as you do it daily and your brain will record that habit. Especially if you are a beginner don’t ask too much to yourself just repeat it daily and increase the time when you need it when you feel ready.

If you can simply focus for a minute into your breathing it could be already used and you could start to feel the benefits.

Step 5: Do not break the chain

The last point is very important. You can be on holiday or in a friend’s house and not your own environment. But if you wanna stick to this habit. Do not break the chain, even once. Cause if you do once you can do two and then forget this new habit.

So it is mainly important to do not to break the chain on any occasion. If you are not at home and intimidate to do your meditation. Do close your eyes for one minute and breath. That will be sufficient to do not break the chain. Even one minute on someday will allow you to keep on your routine.

Conclusion:

As you might have understood, getting into the habit of meditating daily. It’s all about finding the right time, the right place, and making it important for yourself.

You take all of that and you make it consistent and do not break this consistency. After some time it will be in your habit and it won’t be a chore to do it. You will simply do it naturally.

Hope you get how to get into the habit of meditating daily. Now stop reading and schedule it. That’s the first thing to do. Enjoy it.

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Don’t force it, Let it flow

We and I have the tendency to force things. For instance this morning I was forcing myself to write, but I have no inspiration. I’m not here to write because I need to write. I’d like to be consistent and I think it’s important. But I also make an emphasis on doing things and being into joy when doing.

I feel like it’s better.

So you see I don’t force myself I just let it flow.

Don’t force things

Also, we all have the tendency to force things like: “I want that to be like this and everybody has to be like I want”. Like the weather. It has to be sunny. But no sorry it’s just rainy today.

So life teaches us lessons…

Every day, and that is the beauty of life.

And one of the biggest lessons I learned it sometimes there is nothing better than surrender. Surrender to pain for instance. No resistance, accept how things are. Stop forcing ourselves. There is a time when things are good, there is a time where things are bad. It’s just the way things are. So actually there is no bad or good. There are just things.

Here is not to force me to be someone else. I am only, in my doing I am. And this is what I want to be. In your reading you do, but you are. You are not forcing anything. If you don’t want to read just stop. Do something else.

But be present. Be the river.

I feel like the meaning of life is not doing. And I got inspired by writing this text. Cause earlier I was asking what can I do better and how can I serve better to a friend.

My friend told me you got good health, good work, family, a house, you have happiness. But I forced and replied last night, Yeah but I feel like I can do more, I can live more.

And my friend says to me: “I don’t know, sometimes the best is to appreciate it.”

Appreciate things

That’s right, you know being grateful for what we have. And maybe sometimes is not the right time.

I feel like we need to let things happen. Not forcing anything. When I created Pret-a-Train for instance, it comes naturally. I wanted to help people to feel healthier. So I did, and I did with enthusiast. Loving it. And during that experience, sometimes I force, I push against the river, and the counter back was worse, and I lose energy. I failed. But got back again naturally.

So I’ve learned to do not force things and to be in the flow. The flow of life. That’s why I love the book Flow from Mihaly, one of the best books I read.

I still want to serve better but it will come naturally but not by forcing it.

Life is a constant flow. The only constant thing is change. Accepting emotion, accepting things happening and I think about people living through things as losing someone or being in the pain.

Related –> Accept things as there are

I wish you to be strong and to surrender. Let yourself feel the emotion and just be. Don’t force it, cry if you need, smile, and laugh if you need. We just need to be. To Be ourselves, to understand our emotions. Life and we are constant progress.

Just let it be.

I dedicate this one to my friend Tanc. Sending you good vibes.

How to become a champion

Today I’d like to talk about the mindset of a champion. How to cultivate it and how to be a champion.

Because I feel like it’s needed in a world where competition is omnipresent. However, you can become a pacifist champion, having a dream which seems good for yourself and creating it makes it real because you are a champion.

A champion is someone who is brave, who goes beyond what others think is possible. Pret-a-Train and my life have helped me a lot on this.

So let me share with you some tips on how to become a champion.

1 – Love yourself

It sounds cliché to say that. But you might wonder why it can help me to become a champion?

Being a champion is to trust yourself, to believe in yourself, so you have to love yourself. As I said in a previous article, self-love can be the basis of everything. To me, many people try to do great things or do great jobs before loving themselves.

To me becoming a champion is a fight not against others but only against yourself. You have to believe that you are good. You have to believe that you can go beyond and that everything you want to do you can do it. And by being yourself, and loving yourself you’ll succeed.

2 – Get out of your comfort zone

A champion goes beyond what average people think is possible. The attitude of a champion is to know that great things are possible.

And for this, you don’t necessarily need to follow the path of all. You have to get away from your comfort zone. How do you want to grow if you just do what you can do? Go for what you think you can’t do, and just do it. Because if you do it then you’ll believe you can do it.

So take up the challenge, accept things that people think you are crazy about.

Champions like Ronaldo are crazy, big artists like Picasso are crazy, they don’t do unanimity. They go beyond. They go out of their comfort zone.

3 – Accept doubts and fears

Doubt and fears are normal. Who doesn’t feel it? Even the biggest champions have doubts. If you know Jordan ask him.

Everybody has doubts. But the Champion goes beyond. They make their fears and doubts their friends. Because when they are here it might be that they are becoming a champion by going beyond by going into adversity by going out of their comfort zone.

Accept these bad tempers and move on with your life by building an ironclad mindset.

4 – Forge your mindset

Talk to people who inspire you. Read books that inspire you. Watch movies that motivate you. Listen to music that makes you stronger. Podcasts and others are good tools nowadays.

Avoid the naysayers. Avoid the negativity, the pragmatic, the non-dreamer. A champion is a dreamer. A champion knows that everything is possible.

So forge this mindset this is how you can become a champion.

5 – Work

Without work nothing is possible. All the great champions work for what they have. They put the work on. If you want to have a successful business, or if you want to become the best manager or the top athlete there is no secret you have to work.

Love the work, as work won’t be the task that the non-champion thinks it is.

Love the work because life is meant to be spent, to be lived as you wish. Time is the most valuable thing we have in life. No money, no material. So consume your time well and try to even love the boring work, the boring tasks that you have to perfect to become a champion. Accept to doubt yourself. Rest when need it. This is why rest and being healthy life come into play for the champion.

6 – Be healthy

Rest and eat well. Train yourself if you can. To grow your mind to become a champion it will be easier if you know how to work and if you know how to eat and how to rest. The top athletes now know how to rest. They know that sleep and rest are important. They are key to having the energy when needed.

Related –> How you can be fit and healthy

7 – Fail, fail often

If you want to become a champion. You have to fail. Failure, tears, and doubts can be the fertilizer of your status as a champion. Like doubt, no champion has ever known failure. Even the best ones that you are now thinking of have failed. But that’s ok.

Of course, if you go beyond that, if you aim for big goals, there’s no chance you won’t fail at least once. So as the boring work, love the failures. They are the friends, they are beyond some doors of your dreams to make you stronger, to make you always learn something. Fail.. but don’t give up.

8 – Don’t give up

Fail but fail forward, don’t give up. Here we reach the last tip. It’s not because you have failed that you have to give up. Nothing is straight linear.

Having a good life is not linear. You’ll find obstacles on your way to become a champion. You find barriers, are the way of your dream, of your project. But be ok with it. Love it, or just accept it and go beyond.

Be that champion, be persistent, be resistant, feel your emotions, cry, get angry when it’s needed, it’s fine, and go ahead again. Go do that reps, go do that attempt again. Don’t give up. Be that champion.

Last note

Become a champion by following these straight forward tips. Accomplish anything you want to. Cherish your dreams. If you are a champion you know you can do it.

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Ways to gain self-confidence

Self-confidence can be hard to get and hard to keep. Some people think it is innate, but not necessarily. Just like tennis, it can be learned. At times you may have even felt that you had it, maybe for a week or just for a moment during the day while doing something special.

So we will see that in order to keep or gain confidence, there are certain things to respect and to instill in our way of doing things or simply seeing life.

Let’s see how to gain self-confidence now.

Be prepared

This first way is mostly if you want to be confident on a topic, or in a job for instance.

In order to be confident about a subject or a job, it is often enough to be prepared or to know the subject we are going to talk about. For example, if we have a presentation to make in front of a lot of people and we have never done one before, we need to be able to reassure ourselves. It may be enough to watch videos of people who have done it before, or simply ask a friend who is more comfortable with the subject, or write down what we need to say or do.

Simply having a plan can bring confidence and peace of mind. On the other hand, being unprepared can make you feel confused and lose confidence. The idea is to do the necessary research if needed and to plan things well before jumping in.

Now let’s talk about other ways to get inner self-confidence in yourself.

Taking care of yourself

As simple as it may seem. It is important to smell good, have a clean outfit, and have a proper haircut. This will help you love yourself when you look in the mirror first thing in the morning and make you feel good around others.

Taking care of yourself can also come from the way you talk to yourself and the people around you.

Also, take up sports, or just move around. It is equally important to take care of yourself by having a sports activity so that you can release the pressure, create good hormones and make yourself feel good. All this can make you proud of yourself and help you develop inner self-confidence naturally.

Finally, remember to rest. A good night’s sleep is always restorative. Also, think about taking a vacation. It is necessary to be able to recharge your energy continuously in order to keep your confidence.

Related –> How you can be fit and healthy

Change your posture

Even if you don’t have any muscles, a change in posture alone can make you look totally different and as a bonus, your back will thank you for it.

So think about puffing your chest out in front and putting your shoulders straight back. I invite you to get up and try it right now. Just feel the good effect it has. With this posture, you will give others and yourself the impression of being a confident person.

Add a smile. A simple smile on your face will not only make you feel good, but it can brighten the day of people around you.

Finally, when you talk to someone look them in the eyes. If you can’t at first, force yourself, perhaps first with the people you are most comfortable with. Then try with the other. Self-confident people look people in their eyes.

Practice your craft

To keep your confidence. You need to practice and necessarily repeat what we have already seen together.

Also, people who are confident in themselves are people who often do the things they want. So practice where you want to excel. Refer to the number one tip that we discuss. People who are self-confident are maybe not confident in all aspects of life. They just master and repeat their craft.

Related –> You become what you believe you are

Note what you achieve

For many of us, it is often not easy to remember what we did well. Yet I’m sure you’ve done some good things in your life that you can be proud of. Don’t you think so?

This way to gain self-confidence is a tool that I use as a life coach. It helps people to remember and to keep a note of what they did in life. It can be not a great thing for them but can be a great thing for others.

Note everything from small to big. Like living in a different country, learn a language.. work as a clerk for 10 years. Help older people.. Play football for 5 years.. Learn Tai chi. Wrote 15 articles in 5 months. Create a website, a company… Whatever.

Note down everything you achieve or did well. That can boost your self-confidence in an instant. We are often better than what we think of.

I invite you right now, to take a pen and paper, think about it, and write down 3 things you are proud of. Think about it.

Keep that journal. And once you achieve something else write it in it. This is a very essential point to keep your self-confidence on the long road.

And sometimes it can happen to be in doubt and lose a bit of self-confidence. Look at your journal. I call it your Confidence check journal.

Being and staying positive

Finally, the most important for the end. To gain or keep confidence in yourself you must be and stay positive.

So yes we all have moments of doubt. It happens and it will happen throughout our lives, unfortunately. That’s why you have to take note of the good moments or simply tell them to yourself. Be grateful.

I believe that having a gratitude journal is a very interesting thing to do as well. Same as doing a past year’s review.

Writing for me helps you to come back on your life and make you realize things.

Have a look at my past decade review. We underestimate what we do in a decade. I believe by being assertive with yourself you can get better and gain that inner self-confidence that you need.

Note that in life, everything is relative, and it is our unreal fears that block us from moving forward. There is just one thing to do when we doubt is to stay positive and tell ourselves that everything is achievable.

It may be enough to be prepared and to plan things well, to take care of yourself, to constantly keep your confident look and smile. Just practice your art often. You have to note what you did well and finally, you have to always stay strong and positive.

That’s what we need. You’ll gain self-confidence. I believe we are all good in some ways.

Conclusion:

You see each of us has strategies to succeed in life. If you know very confident people around you, it is because they may be following some of these tips and with practice, it may seem natural.

It is just a matter of following certain rules.

I hope this will help you. Trust yourself, we are all capable of having confidence in ourselves. Don’t limit yourself.

Believe in yourself as it can change the world.

Stay happy, stay fit, keep eating broccoli.

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What’s the meaning of life

I think I got to a point and I really want to share it with you.

Recently I’ve been thinking a lot, after working hard on my company for 2 years, (I wrote this article at the end of 2019) then fail on the way that I was going. This the kind of things that makes you think a lot. Which is actually good.

Entering in the motion. Thinking deeply about your next move.

You see, when something happens to us, and when we’ve been working for 2 years straights with no real holidays, like a crazy dude. Working hard toward our vision. And what we were thinking about our company and our future is not going on the way we were projecting it. It surely makes us think and analyze, or if it’s not the case, I guess we are dumb.

So I’ve analyzed the past about what I did good and what I did wrong.

Failure first has a different meaning for me, and one of them can be just growing. I like to see things like this. But anyway it’s not the topic that I want to talk about here.

So I don’t know if it’s because I’m in my 30’s or because I do a huge analysis of my past 2 years. But I’m thinking often about this question. What’s the meaning of life?

Like many of us, I’ve done many things in my life, and I’m still young actually, even If around the 30’s we think: « oh.. I’m old already.. ». I guess it’s just because of the society around.

But I’m still young, very young like I still have to work 30 years.

So you see it’s kind of interesting to ask the right questions to ourselves, knowing that we’re going to work and live for many years still

Thus, I’ve took some conclusions that I really want to respect in my life. I think it can be good for you to respect it too at any age you might have.

Loving what you do

As I said if you still have many years to work. It’s so much better to work on what you love. Or on what you like at least. But please not the opposite. I’m sure it can kill you to do what you hate. We live in a world of opportunities. There are everywhere nowadays. You see I complain a lot about social media and this new era. But as Gary Vee said, that’s right if we don’t complain we are in the best era to live.

Look before it was not possible to share your vision with the world. Now with a bit of knowledge, something to say, then you can quickly share with the whole world as I do with this blog post.

Don’t spend one year without loving what you do. If you hate what you do, just stop and find something else. I know it can be scary but as Will Smith said, the most blissful experiences of life are on the other side of fear.

Live

That’s the main point. The meaning of life to me is simply to live. To live a life full of experiences, full of meaningful things. We never know when we are going to die. It might be in 50 years, 10 years. It can be tomorrow. So I think we have to make a daily practice about living. It’s like if you feel like you’ve been just working on the day or during the week. Go out do something that you want to do and live.

When I say live, it’s like yeah, doing something that you love, or simply walk out and watch out for the world around. We can spend days, weeks and months, without noticing the beauty of the world, especially when we are living in the same city. But I can promise you if you stop for a moment, and look around differently, you will see things that you have never seen before.

What I’m currently doing by these days, it’s watching at the rooftops, from houses, buildings, and so on. And actually, I find plenty of good addresses by doing that. We just need to get this good feeling in our brain. Making this interesting again.

The meaning of life is to live it. Eat dinner with friends. Call people, we care about. Enjoy some great holidays. Doing some scary experiences. Laugh and live the life we want for ourselves.

Do you want to know quickly what people regret the most in their deathbed :

They wish to have had the courage to live a life true for themselves.
Wishing they haven’t worked so hard
They wish they have the courage to express their feeling
Wishing to have stayed in touch with their friend
They wish they had let themselves happier

I think this is interesting to note. I know we have to work to pay the bills and everything but I’m sure everyone can work in the field he likes, and live a truly meaningful life for himself.

You see I was speaking to a friend on the phone a few days earlier and we were thinking that regret is the most terrifying thing that can happen to us. It’s terrible to regret. And again we live in a world full of opportunities now.

So we need to take the chance to live. If you read this post and you never traveled far away I recommend you to do it. This is the most blissful experience in my life and I’m going to do it again and again. Cause I love it. Airplane tickets are inexpensive nowadays and if we really want to do something, we can find a way to do it. The most important thing to do at the beginning is to decide.

We need to decide to live cause that’s the meaning of life to me.

Hope you’ll get something valuable from this post. Believe in yourself.

You become what you believe you are

As the famous TV show presenter, Oprah Winfrey said: « You don’t become what you want, you become what you believe ». Or again the motivational speaker who inspired Tony Robbins, Jim Rohn said: « You become what you think about ». If they are right. It’s better to think good about yourself.

Brain thoughts

Your brain has daily thoughts. Negatives one more often, that’s why we need all the time social connection or music and TV. These thoughts are just suggestions – they are not real – and we can change them by focusing on good thoughts.

Don’t limit yourself. Believe in yourself. Control your thoughts.

Your brain will embody your thoughts. All your thoughts are going to make the actions happen.

Take action

Even if the action is small, just take it, just do it. If you want to become a writer, just write a bit each day or each week.

You want to become a great reader, just read a bit. Want to become fit? Workout. If you truly believe you are going to become the person you want to be, you will take the necessary action at some point. Believe all the time at this, never let it go. Never quit.

Not giving up

Sometimes you feel like quitting. Don’t you think everybody is not feeling like quitting at some point? Don’t you think you are alone in the universe.

Be consistent. Don’t give up.

As humans, we all feel the same kind of emotion. Successful people in relationships, or love, or power, or anything that they are successful at, had just never quit. They too had felt this emotion. The thing is just they don’t quit.

I’m often positive, but I personally want to quite often but the purpose keeps me on track and makes me wake up each morning after the other just to show up, just to do the work. Even if you are not at your best all the time, it’s normal, it’s just natural. You don’t have to be. You just need to keep believing.

The power of purpose

The purpose makes you do what you do now. This power, this thought pulls you to the future.

The purpose will show to you this power to pass the challenges and obstacles you will have during the path.

It will make you wake up even when you don’t want to. The more the purpose is strong, the more you can be unstoppable. All about your thoughts, all is happening in your gut. Your gut is right now talking to your brain. Your feelings are here to tell you what you should do.

The feeling might be the purpose. Just listen to your feeling, to your body, and go toward your purpose.

Focus on positive things

If we are really what we think about as the philosopher Nietsche said. It’s better to think on positive things than negative ones.

The brain is like a magnet, and will attract what we strongly think. That’s where affirmation and mantra can help. The more it will become part of your subconscious to think good, feel good about yourself the more it will be automatically then.

You can change your thoughts by affirming in a loud voice that you are great and that you are positive. Everything in life needs practice but the more you will focus on being positive the more you will become.

Attraction law

You attract what you think about. If you believe you will attract fear and bad things. You will get this. On the contrary, if you think you will attract success and love. You will attract these things too.

If you truly believe you will be the best actor of all time you will act differently as you think I hope I am good. Success is defined in our thoughts.

Have you never realized when you feel good, good things happen to you but when you feel bad, the world seems to fall in your head and everything becomes crap like a vicious circle? Thus, It’s better to feel good and talk good to people.

Believe in yourself

After all, that you have read you got the idea of how it is important to believe in yourself.

Believe in what you want to become. Believe that you are someone unique and that you can achieve everything that you set in your mind to.

If you need more power I suggest you to watch some videos, here are some which can help to embodied the idea that you will become what you think about :

You Become What You Believe – One of the Most Motivational Speeches Ever (ft. Jim Rohn)

You Become What You Believe You Are

Just browse on the internet you will find plenty of videos on the topic.

Believe in yourself.

Stay fit, stay healthy, be happy.

Don’t limit yourself

I’ve realized that I like a lot of stuff, like sport, being better, nature, flowers, birds, poetry… I’d like to train myself hard, keep evolving, learning about plants, and being more connected with nature. It’s not because I’m a personal trainer and an entrepreneur that I can’t become a poetry writer.

But it seems to be, that in this system we are living into, we need to do one thing and that’s it. Being good at one thing, and maybe becoming the best, is one good among others. So sorry, but that’s boring for me and I’m disconnecting from this system.

Don’t limit yourself

I like you to think as well, that you can become anything, and that you can start anything, learn and do anything you want.

We don’t necessarily need to limit ourselves. We are human beings, we are more than a title, than a job, than just a thing. We can be and do more, without limit.

At any age, any time you can learn something and do something different. I want to keep being a personal trainer, keeping and evolving Pret-a-Train. But at the same time, I want to build a wooden house, being more connected to nature. I’m connected to humans because of my job and what I learn daily. But I’m getting more and more interested in nature. In energy fields, and other things.

And yes we can, so I’m just writing that to maybe touch you when you read and believe in yourself, that there is no need to limit yourself.

Don’t limit yourself

It’s not because you are entitled to a position or to a job that you can’t learn something different. As long as we are enthusiastic to do that thing. We can do anything. Here’s a bit of motivation. Here’s hope for you to become more. I’d like to do more, my goals list is long. I wish you the best too. Believe in yourself.

Books I love and why

During my personal life, since my 25 yo, I’ve been reading tons of books about self-development and other things that I’m interested in.

I’ve done this article to enlighten some great books I love and explain to you a bit of why I love them. Don’t hesitate to share books you love and why in the comment section.

I’ll just enlighten you few books for self-development only which I believe makes me better, teach or remind me of some things. These are books that I might be reading more than once or twice. I believe small books with powerful meanings sometimes are good to read every 3 months are so.

These are books I love and why.

The power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

The power of Now is the first great book I love and that I like to share here. It has been beautifully written with great consciousness from Ekhart. It just teaches or reminds us to live in the present moment.

It makes us consciously remind ourselves of something. Talking about our unconscious form like the fear we can have.

I love that book cause it made to take our time to read. We have to read one paragraph, think about it, going to ourselves and understanding the deep meaning. This for me is an advanced book, so if you just start reading about self-development it might be not the right book for you. Try but if you see that’s too hard to understand go to something else, then come back on it, maybe the understanding will be easier.

I think we should not force ourselves to do anything. Drop it, do something else, then come back if need it, be like the river.

Flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi

Flow is a great book which talks about happiness, and how in some little and normal things we can be happy. It teaches me one lesson: if you do that thing even if you don’t like it, like it cause you are here and now, and it’s better to be in the flow and be ok with it too enjoy it anyway. I don’t know if I’m clear for you, but it’s a deep meaning for me.

In any way, we all read books, and sometimes we tend to forget what there is inside, but I like to think that actually, it teaches us at least one good thing that we need. And even if we don’t realize it, we’ll have some help at the right time when we need it, and we can forget at that time, where we learn this, but anyway, it serves, and we use it when we need it.

The 4 Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

This book should be read by everyone. These 4 agreements shared by Miguel Ruiz, a shaman are greatly powerful and so true.

I’d like to share one with you which is “Don’t take things personally”. Because sometimes people can say bad things, we then tend to believe and think that’s really because of us. However, we should never take things personally because the person can be in unconscious mode, being in a bad mood at this time.

I really recommend you to read this small book which will make you live and understand life better.

The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield

The Celestine Prophecy is a great novel which opens the mind. If we believe in the story it makes us realize that he can have more in this world than we think.

It’s a great adventure book, which transports us outside in the story, and that we relate inside with ourselves. We can sometimes stop reading and asking ourselves some personal questions. This book depends at which stage we read it, and can make us understand better about ourselves.

Tao Te Ching From Laozi

I love the philosophy of Tao. The Tao te Ching is simple and deep. Don’t make it hard. Hard makes the soft. Powerful and easy. Again this can be hard to understand. But anyway I believe books come when we need them and that we take personal lessons from them. Nobody will have the same lesson.

Some great powerful teaching in that book. Written like poetry, paragraph by paragraph, don’t read it fast, just try to read and ask yourself what you feel from these little lines.

Here I share with you some books that I love. I might come back to it to share with some others. The goal for me was to start this list and to share it with. What about yourself, which books do you love and why? Share it with me and others.

Why doing sport is better than any drugs

Today I’d like to talk about a very important topic. I want to talk about things that are deeply important to my heart. This is why this blog has been created aside from Pret-a-Train.

So today, I’d like to talk about drugs and sports, and hopefully many will understand why playing or doing sport is better than any drugs. After having read this article, you’ll hopefully want more to do sport to join incredible happiness than doing drug looking for the same.

You see I try many different things in my life, you can find a part of it in my past decade review.

As a young dude, rebellious as always, I’ve looked for and discovered myself, tried different things, and to me, there is “almost” nothing better than sport. Or at least to me, sport is the best natural drug in the world.

As you know practicing a sport can help you to be fit and healthy. It can be any type of cardio sport or a classic like going to the gym.

So without waiting longer, let’s enumerate why doing sport is better than any drugs?

Euphoria

As far as I know, many people use drugs to look for their euphorias self, to look for euphoria.

And what do you think we find when we are deeply immersed in a sports activity we like?

I don’t know if you do or try any sport, or if you have to remember when you were a kid, swimming in the pool, or enjoying tennis or a run with your friend. As a growing person, you might have tried to go to the gym, do some fitness, and lift some weight.

To myself, a huge deadlift of 100 kilos correctly executed is what gives me a lot of euphorias when I drop the bar. The release of hormones spike to my head and make me feel away, as any drug can do. I can also tell you about when I climb difficult bouldering and I reach the summit. Again when I do a rally in tennis with one of my friends, it’s like sharing my drug with someone, and we both feel euphoric.

Studies have shown many things about what a runner feels during a long-distance, yes again this kind of euphoria.

Focus, present moment

That might be the most important of all. Sport makes you focus and connects you deeply to the present moment.

You see to me life is all about now, being into the flow. And there is nothing better than being plunge into any activity if you are interested in the flow. I can’t strongly enough recommend you to read the book from Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi about flow and happiness.

He has done all his life research about the topic of how to be happy. And experiencing the flow is key.

You should have experienced the flow in any other activity that you like, like drawing, writing, walking or enjoying a great dinner with your family or friends.

So if you do a sport that you like. And so there is any sport that you can try where you can deeply connect with the present moment. You just need to like it. I can close my eyes, and think about a football game I’ve done in Siem Reap, Cambodia, 10 players all being plunged into the present moment, forgetting everything around. The activity now was the only important thing and we were all enjoying it.

This is why often I say to my client when doing their exercise, be the focus, this is your most important thing in life right now what you do, then they plunge into their push up or whatever and they grab the most benefits they can get from it.

Feel relaxed

For some people, smoking weed makes them feel relaxed afterward. Pressure and you get to the sofa, smoke some pot and you feel relaxed. And again what you think sport does. Once you have finished your session, your heart rate becomes lower, the release of the hormone makes you feel good, without deteriorating your health, and here you go you feel at peace.

No need drugs. As sport can give you the same effect. That’s why doing sport is better than any drugs again.

Happiness

Should I talk to you about studies or have you got enough of it? Many researchers talk about it, back up it. But yes do any sport. Just go, grab a racket, grab a pair of shoes, go for a run, do some intense sessions, climb a mountain, do a trick, or whatever. Connected to the present moment, of course, you feel happy, thank the feel-good hormone yes. Sport is here the best drug in the world.

Make you feel happy, connect you into the present, this is not why we do what we do. We all want to be happy right? Tons of sports have been created, try yourself and don’t give up on it. It can make you happy. One of my challenges is when one of my clients comes to me and tells me “I don’t like sport”, it’s to show them they are just lying to themselves, it’s not their fault, it’s just that they got a bad experience or gave up on that and are confused they not liking it. Once they start the program, I approach them with a nice soft attitude about sport, my goal is to make them enjoy and realize. And most of the time they feel happy and thank me afterward.

Study: Effect on Happiness with sport

Live longer

There is no surprise that sports compared to drugs can make you live longer.

Should we really discuss it?

There are many other points I’m sure that you can think about why the sport is the best drug in the world. But here you have the 4 essentials one to me. As you can see I like to compare the drug to the sport, one is nocive the other is natural, created accordingly with the body. Then as everything in life often is a matter of choice.

Experience sport, keep looking for yourself, keep discovering yourself, it’s never too late, and if you are looking to be happy, join or try any sport to feel the vibe.

That’s just why doing sport is better than any drugs. So go ahead, find a sport you like, and get all the great benefits that I just talked about. Better to experience than just read.

Keep Reading on the topic:

The top mental benefits of Sport

Exercise acts as a drug; the pharmacological benefits of exercise:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3448908/

https://www.fatherly.com/news/playing-sports-mens-workouts-research-health/

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