How to become a champion 

Today I’d like to talk about the mindset of a champion. How to cultivate it and how to be a champion. 

Because I feel like it’s needed in a world where competition is omnipresent. However, you can become a pacifist champion, having a dream which seems good for yourself and creating it makes it real because you are a champion. 

A champion is someone who is brave, who goes beyond what others think is possible. Pret-a-Train and my life have helped me a lot on this. 

So let me share with you some tips on how to become a champion. 

1 – Love yourself 

It sounds cliché to say that. But you might wonder why it can help me to become a champion? 

Being a champion is to trust yourself, to believe in yourself, so you have to love yourself. As I said in a previous article, self-love can be the basis of everything. To me, many people try to do great things or do great jobs before loving themselves. 

To me becoming a champion is a fight not against others but only against yourself. You have to believe that you are good. You have to believe that you can go beyond and that everything you want to do you can do it. And by being yourself, and loving yourself you’ll succeed. 

Related –> You become what you believe you are

2 – Get out of your comfort zone 

A champion goes beyond what average people think is possible. The attitude of a champion is to know that great things are possible. 

And for this, you don’t necessarily need to follow the path of all. You have to get away from your comfort zone. How do you want to grow if you just do what you can do? Go for what you think you can’t do, and just do it. Because if you do it then you’ll believe you can do it. 

So take up the challenge, accept things that people think you are crazy about. 

Champions like Ronaldo are crazy, big artists like Picasso are crazy, they don’t do unanimity. They go beyond. They go out of their comfort zone. 

3 – Accept doubts and fears

Doubt and fears are normal. Who doesn’t feel it? Even the biggest champions have doubts. If you know Jordan ask him. 

Everybody has doubts. But the Champion goes beyond. They make their fears and doubts their friends. Because when they are here it might be that they are becoming a champion by going beyond by going into adversity by going out of their comfort zone. 

Accept these bad tempers and move on with your life by building an ironclad mindset.

4 – Forge your mindset

Talk to people who inspire you. Read books that inspire you. Watch movies that motivate you. Listen to music that makes you stronger. Podcasts and others are good tools nowadays. 

Avoid the naysayers. Avoid the negativity, the pragmatic, the non-dreamer. A champion is a dreamer. A champion knows that everything is possible. 

So forge this mindset this is how you can become a champion. 

Related –> 12 ways to develop a successful mindset

5 – Work

Without work nothing is possible. All the great champions work for what they have. They put the work on. If you want to have a successful business, or if you want to become the best manager or the top athlete there is no secret you have to work. 

Love the work, as work won’t be the task that the non-champion thinks it is. 

Love the work because life is meant to be spent, to be lived as you wish. Time is the most valuable thing we have in life. No money, no material. So consume your time well and try to even love the boring work, the boring tasks that you have to perfect to become a champion. Accept to doubt yourself. Rest when need it. This is why rest and being healthy life come into play for the champion. 

6 – Be healthy

Rest and eat well. Train yourself if you can. To grow your mind to become a champion it will be easier if you know how to work and if you know how to eat and how to rest. The top athletes now know how to rest. They know that sleep and rest are important. They are key to having the energy when needed. 

Related –> How you can be fit and healthy

7 – Fail, fail often 

If you want to become a champion. You have to fail. Failure, tears, and doubts can be the fertilizer of your status as a champion. Like doubt, no champion has ever known failure. Even the best ones that you are now thinking of have failed. But that’s ok. 

Of course, if you go beyond that, if you aim for big goals, there’s no chance you won’t fail at least once. So as the boring work, love the failures. They are the friends, they are beyond some doors of your dreams to make you stronger, to make you always learn something. Fail.. but don’t give up. 

8 – Don’t give up

Fail but fail forward, don’t give up. Here we reach the last tip. It’s not because you have failed that you have to give up. Nothing is straight linear. 

Having a good life is not linear. You’ll find obstacles on your way to become a champion. You find barriers, are the way of your dream, of your project. But be ok with it. Love it, or just accept it and go beyond. 

Be that champion, be persistent, be resistant, feel your emotions, cry, get angry when it’s needed, it’s fine, and go ahead again. Go do that reps, go do that attempt again. Don’t give up. Be that champion. 

Last note

Become a champion by following these straight forward tips. Accomplish anything you want to. Cherish your dreams. If you are a champion you know you can do it.

 

 

Image from klimkin de Pixabay

Ways to gain self-confidence

Self-confidence can be hard to get and hard to keep. Some people think it is innate, but not necessarily. Just like tennis, it can be learned. At times you may have even felt that you had it, maybe for a week or just for a moment during the day while doing something special.

So we will see that in order to keep or gain confidence, there are certain things to respect and to instill in our way of doing things or simply seeing life.

Let’s see how to gain self-confidence now.

 

Be prepared

This first way is mostly if you want to be confident on a topic, or in a job for instance.

In order to be confident about a subject or a job, it is often enough to be prepared or to know the subject we are going to talk about. For example, if we have a presentation to make in front of a lot of people and we have never done one before, we need to be able to reassure ourselves. It may be enough to watch videos of people who have done it before, or simply ask a friend who is more comfortable with the subject, or write down what we need to say or do.

Simply having a plan can bring confidence and peace of mind. On the other hand, being unprepared can make you feel confused and lose confidence. The idea is to do the necessary research if needed and to plan things well before jumping in.

Now let’s talk about other ways to get inner self-confidence in yourself.

 

Taking care of yourself

As simple as it may seem. It is important to smell good, have a clean outfit, and have a proper haircut. This will help you love yourself when you look in the mirror first thing in the morning and make you feel good around others.

Taking care of yourself can also come from the way you talk to yourself and the people around you.

Also, take up sports, or just move around. It is equally important to take care of yourself by having a sports activity so that you can release the pressure, create good hormones and make yourself feel good. All this can make you proud of yourself and help you develop inner self-confidence naturally.

Finally, remember to rest. A good night’s sleep is always restorative. Also, think about taking a vacation. It is necessary to be able to recharge your energy continuously in order to keep your confidence.

Related –> How you can be fit and healthy

 

Change your posture

Even if you don’t have any muscles, a change in posture alone can make you look totally different and as a bonus, your back will thank you for it.

So think about puffing your chest out in front and putting your shoulders straight back. I invite you to get up and try it right now. Just feel the good effect it has. With this posture, you will give others and yourself the impression of being a confident person.

Add a smile. A simple smile on your face will not only make you feel good, but it can brighten the day of people around you.

Finally, when you talk to someone look them in the eyes. If you can’t at first, force yourself, perhaps first with the people you are most comfortable with. Then try with the other. Self-confident people look people in their eyes. 

 

Practice your craft

To keep your confidence. You need to practice and necessarily repeat what we have already seen together.

Also, people who are confident in themselves are people who often do the things they want. So practice where you want to excel. Refer to the number one tip that we discuss. People who are self-confident are maybe not confident in all aspects of life. They just master and repeat their craft. 

Related –> You become what you believe you are

 

Note what you achieve

For many of us, it is often not easy to remember what we did well. Yet I’m sure you’ve done some good things in your life that you can be proud of. Don’t you think so?

This way to gain self-confidence is a tool that I use as a life coach. It helps people to remember and to keep a note of what they did in life. It can be not a great thing for them but can be a great thing for others.

Note everything from small to big. Like living in a different country, learn a language.. work as a clerk for 10 years. Help older people.. Play football for 5 years.. Learn Tai chi. Wrote 15 articles in 5 months. Create a website, a company… Whatever.

Note down everything you achieve or did well. That can boost your self-confidence in an instant. We are often better than what we think of.

I invite you right now, to take a pen and paper, think about it, and write down 3 things you are proud of. Think about it.

Keep that journal. And once you achieve something else write it in it. This is a very essential point to keep your self-confidence on the long road.

And sometimes it can happen to be in doubt and lose a bit of self-confidence. Look at your journal. I call it your Confidence check journal.

Related–> Brief Talk About Stress and Confidence

 

Being and staying positive

Finally, the most important for the end. To gain or keep confidence in yourself you must be and stay positive.

So yes we all have moments of doubt. It happens and it will happen throughout our lives, unfortunately. That’s why you have to take note of the good moments or simply tell them to yourself. Be grateful. 

I believe that having a gratitude journal is a very interesting thing to do as well. Same as doing a past year’s review. 

Writing for me helps you to come back on your life and make you realize things.

Have a look at my past decade review. We underestimate what we do in a decade. I believe by being assertive with yourself you can get better and gain that inner self-confidence that you need.

Note that in life, everything is relative, and it is our unreal fears that block us from moving forward. There is just one thing to do when we doubt is to stay positive and tell ourselves that everything is achievable.

It may be enough to be prepared and to plan things well, to take care of yourself, to constantly keep your confident look and smile. Just practice your art often. You have to note what you did well and finally, you have to always stay strong and positive.

That’s what we need. You’ll gain self-confidence. I believe we are all good in some ways.

Conclusion:

You see each of us has strategies to succeed in life. If you know very confident people around you, it is because they may be following some of these tips and with practice, it may seem natural.

It is just a matter of following certain rules.

I hope this will help you. Trust yourself, we are all capable of having confidence in ourselves. Don’t limit yourself.

Believe in yourself as it can change the world. 

Stay happy, stay fit, keep eating broccoli.

Picture of Pret-a-Train.

 

 

What’s the meaning of life

I think I got to a point and I really want to share it with you.

Recently I’ve been thinking a lot, after working hard on my company for 2 years, (I wrote this article at the end of 2019) then fail on the way that I was going. This the kind of things that makes you think a lot. Which is actually good.

Entering in the motion. Thinking deeply about your next move.

You see, when something happens to us, and when we’ve been working for 2 years straights with no real holidays, like a crazy dude. Working hard toward our vision. And what we were thinking about our company and our future is not going on the way we were projecting it. It surely makes us think and analyze, or if it’s not the case, I guess we are dumb.

So I’ve analyzed the past about what I did good and what I did wrong.

Failure first has a different meaning for me, and one of them can be just growing. I like to see things like this. But anyway it’s not the topic that I want to talk about here.

So I don’t know if it’s because I’m in my 30’s or because I do a huge analysis of my past 2 years. But I’m thinking often about this question. What’s the meaning of life?

Like many of us, I’ve done many things in my life, and I’m still young actually, even If around the 30’s we think: « oh.. I’m old already.. ». I guess it’s just because of the society around.

But I’m still young, very young like I still have to work 30 years.

So you see it’s kind of interesting to ask the right questions to ourselves, knowing that we’re going to work and live for many years still

Thus, I’ve took some conclusions that I really want to respect in my life. I think it can be good for you to respect it too at any age you might have.

Loving what you do

As I said if you still have many years to work. It’s so much better to work on what you love. Or on what you like at least. But please not the opposite. I’m sure it can kill you to do what you hate. We live in a world of opportunities. There are everywhere nowadays. You see I complain a lot about social media and this new era. But as Gary Vee said, that’s right if we don’t complain we are in the best era to live.

Look before it was not possible to share your vision with the world. Now with a bit of knowledge, something to say, then you can quickly share with the whole world as I do with this blog post.

Don’t spend one year without loving what you do. If you hate what you do, just stop and find something else. I know it can be scary but as Will Smith said, the most blissful experiences of life are on the other side of fear.

Live

That’s the main point. The meaning of life to me is simply to live. To live a life full of experiences, full of meaningful things. We never know when we are going to die. It might be in 50 years, 10 years. It can be tomorrow. So I think we have to make a daily practice about living. It’s like if you feel like you’ve been just working on the day or during the week. Go out do something that you want to do and live.

When I say live, it’s like yeah, doing something that you love, or simply walk out and watch out for the world around. We can spend days, weeks and months, without noticing the beauty of the world, especially when we are living in the same city. But I can promise you if you stop for a moment, and look around differently, you will see things that you have never seen before.

What I’m currently doing by these days, it’s watching at the rooftops, from houses, buildings, and so on. And actually, I find plenty of good addresses by doing that. We just need to get this good feeling in our brain. Making this interesting again.

The meaning of life is to live it. Eat dinner with friends. Call people, we care about. Enjoy some great holidays. Doing some scary experiences. Laugh and live the life we want for ourselves.

Do you want to know quickly what people regret the most in their deathbed :

  • They wish to have had the courage to live a life true for themselves.
  • Wishing they haven’t worked so hard
  • They wish they have the courage to express their feeling
  • Wishing to have stayed in touch with their friend
  • They wish they had let themselves happier

I think this is interesting to note. I know we have to work to pay the bills and everything but I’m sure everyone can work in the field he likes, and live a truly meaningful life for himself.

You see I was speaking to a friend on the phone a few days earlier and we were thinking that regret is the most terrifying thing that can happen to us. It’s terrible to regret. And again we live in a world full of opportunities now.

So we need to take the chance to live. If you read this post and you never traveled far away I recommend you to do it. This is the most blissful experience in my life and I’m going to do it again and again. Cause I love it. Airplane tickets are inexpensive nowadays and if we really want to do something, we can find a way to do it. The most important thing to do at the beginning is to decide.

We need to decide to live cause that’s the meaning of life to me.

Hope you’ll get something valuable from this post. Believe in yourself.

You become what you believe you are

As the famous TV show presenter, Oprah Winfrey said: « You don’t become what you want, you become what you believe ». Or again the motivational speaker who inspired Tony Robbins, Jim Rohn said: « You become what you think about ». If they are right. It’s better to think good about yourself.

Brain thoughts

Your brain has daily thoughts. Negatives one more often, that’s why we need all the time social connection or music and TV. These thoughts are just suggestions – they are not real – and we can change them by focusing on good thoughts.

Don’t limit yourself. Believe in yourself. Control your thoughts.

Your brain will embody your thoughts. All your thoughts are going to make the actions happen.

Take action

Even if the action is small, just take it, just do it. If you want to become a writer, just write a bit each day or each week.

You want to become a great reader, just read a bit. Want to become fit? Workout. If you truly believe you are going to become the person you want to be, you will take the necessary action at some point. Believe all the time at this, never let it go. Never quit.

Not giving up

Sometimes you feel like quitting. Don’t you think everybody is not feeling like quitting at some point? Don’t you think you are alone in the universe.

Be consistent. Don’t give up. 

As humans, we all feel the same kind of emotion. Successful people in relationships, or love, or power, or anything that they are successful at, had just never quit. They too had felt this emotion. The thing is just they don’t quit.

I’m often positive, but I personally want to quite often but the purpose keeps me on track and makes me wake up each morning after the other just to show up, just to do the work. Even if you are not at your best all the time, it’s normal, it’s just natural. You don’t have to be. You just need to keep believing.

The power of purpose

The purpose makes you do what you do now. This power, this thought pulls you to the future.

The purpose will show to you this power to pass the challenges and obstacles you will have during the path.

It will make you wake up even when you don’t want to. The more the purpose is strong, the more you can be unstoppable. All about your thoughts, all is happening in your gut. Your gut is right now talking to your brain. Your feelings are here to tell you what you should do.

The feeling might be the purpose. Just listen to your feeling, to your body, and go toward your purpose.

Focus on positive things

If we are really what we think about as the philosopher Nietsche said. It’s better to think on positive things than negative ones.

The brain is like a magnet, and will attract what we strongly think. That’s where affirmation and mantra can help. The more it will become part of your subconscious to think good, feel good about yourself the more it will be automatically then.

You can change your thoughts by affirming in a loud voice that you are great and that you are positive. Everything in life needs practice but the more you will focus on being positive the more you will become.

Attraction law

You attract what you think about. If you believe you will attract fear and bad things. You will get this. On the contrary, if you think you will attract success and love. You will attract these things too.

If you truly believe you will be the best actor of all time you will act differently as you think I hope I am good. Success is defined in our thoughts.

Have you never realized when you feel good, good things happen to you but when you feel bad, the world seems to fall in your head and everything becomes crap like a vicious circle? Thus, It’s better to feel good and talk good to people. 

Believe in yourself

After all, that you have read you got the idea of how it is important to believe in yourself.

Believe in what you want to become. Believe that you are someone unique and that you can achieve everything that you set in your mind to.

 

If you need more power I suggest you to watch some videos, here are some which can help to embodied the idea that you will become what you think about :

You Become What You Believe – One of the Most Motivational Speeches Ever (ft. Jim Rohn)

You Become What You Believe You Are

Just browse on the internet you will find plenty of videos on the topic.

Believe in yourself.

Stay fit, stay healthy, be happy.

 

 

 

 

 

Don’t limit yourself

I’ve realized that I like a lot of stuff, like sport, being better, nature, flowers, birds, poetry… I’d like to train myself hard, keep evolving, learning about plants, and being more connected with nature. It’s not because I’m a personal trainer and an entrepreneur that I can’t become a poetry writer. 

But it seems to be, that in this system we are living into, we need to do one thing and that’s it. Being good at one thing, and maybe becoming the best, is one good among others. So sorry, but that’s boring for me and I’m disconnecting from this system. 

Don’t limit yourself

I like you to think as well, that you can become anything, and that you can start anything, learn and do anything you want. 

We don’t necessarily need to limit ourselves. We are human beings, we are more than a title, than a job, than just a thing. We can be and do more, without limit. 

At any age, any time you can learn something and do something different. I want to keep being a personal trainer, keeping and evolving Pret-a-Train. But at the same time, I want to build a wooden house, being more connected to nature. I’m connected to humans because of my job and what I learn daily. But I’m getting more and more interested in nature. In energy fields, and other things. 

And yes we can, so I’m just writing that to maybe touch you when you read and believe in yourself, that there is no need to limit yourself. 

Don’t limit yourself

It’s not because you are entitled to a position or to a job that you can’t learn something different. As long as we are enthusiastic to do that thing. We can do anything. Here’s a bit of motivation. Here’s hope for you to become more. I’d like to do more, my goals list is long. I wish you the best too. Believe in yourself.

Books I love and why

During my personal life, since my 25 yo, I’ve been reading tons of books about self-development and other things that I’m interested in. 

I’ve done this article to enlighten some great books I love and explain to you a bit of why I love them. Don’t hesitate to share books you love and why in the comment section. 

I’ll just enlighten you few books for self-development only which I believe makes me better, teach or remind me of some things. These are books that I might be reading more than once or twice. I believe small books with powerful meanings sometimes are good to read every 3 months are so. 

These are books I love and why.

 

The power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

The power of Now is the first great book I love and that I like to share here. It has been beautifully written with great consciousness from Ekhart. It just teaches or reminds us to live in the present moment. 

It makes us consciously remind ourselves of something. Talking about our unconscious form like the fear we can have. 

I love that book cause it made to take our time to read. We have to read one paragraph, think about it, going to ourselves and understanding the deep meaning. This for me is an advanced book, so if you just start reading about self-development it might be not the right book for you. Try but if you see that’s too hard to understand go to something else, then come back on it, maybe the understanding will be easier. 

I think we should not force ourselves to do anything. Drop it, do something else, then come back if need it, be like the river. 

Related –> The present moment to be healthy and happy  

 

Flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi

Flow is a great book which talks about happiness, and how in some little and normal things we can be happy. It teaches me one lesson: if you do that thing even if you don’t like it, like it cause you are here and now, and it’s better to be in the flow and be ok with it too enjoy it anyway. I don’t know if I’m clear for you, but it’s a deep meaning for me. 

In any way, we all read books, and sometimes we tend to forget what there is inside, but I like to think that actually, it teaches us at least one good thing that we need. And even if we don’t realize it, we’ll have some help at the right time when we need it, and we can forget at that time, where we learn this, but anyway, it serves, and we use it when we need it. 

 

The 4 Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

This book should be read by everyone. These 4 agreements shared by Miguel Ruiz, a shaman are greatly powerful and so true. 

I’d like to share one with you which is “Don’t take things personally”. Because sometimes people can say bad things, we then tend to believe and think that’s really because of us. However, we should never take things personally because the person can be in unconscious mode, being in a bad mood at this time. 

I really recommend you to read this small book which will make you live and understand life better.

Related –> The conscious and unconscious forms and how we can be more conscious

 

The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield

The Celestine Prophecy is a great novel which opens the mind. If we believe in the story it makes us realize that he can have more in this world than we think. 

It’s a great adventure book, which transports us outside in the story, and that we relate inside with ourselves. We can sometimes stop reading and asking ourselves some personal questions. This book depends at which stage we read it, and can make us understand better about ourselves. 

 

Tao Te Ching From Laozi

I love the philosophy of Tao. The Tao te Ching is simple and deep. Don’t make it hard. Hard makes the soft. Powerful and easy. Again this can be hard to understand. But anyway I believe books come when we need them and that we take personal lessons from them. Nobody will have the same lesson. 

Some great powerful teaching in that book. Written like poetry, paragraph by paragraph, don’t read it fast, just try to read and ask yourself what you feel from these little lines. 

 

Here I share with you some books that I love. I might come back to it to share with some others. The goal for me was to start this list and to share it with. What about yourself, which books do you love and why? Share it with me and others. 

The present moment to be healthy and happy  

I guess we all want to be healthy and happy. This is why I created Pret-a-Train, to help people to be. At first, we did personal training to help people doing sport because sport can bring a great physical and mental state. Then we started to create a lot of articles to help them to be healthy and happy because taking care of your mind and body by doing sport is a great thing. Nonetheless, it’s not the only way to be totally healthy. 

To reach that state of healthiness, you have to feel good in your mind and your body. You have to feel good energy inside you. You have to accept life on how it is, and flowing with it. 

That is why I want to talk to you about how it is important to live in the present moment to be healthy and happy. 

Our mind is a great thing, a great tool. It helps us to create, to work, to help people, to learn new things.. on the contrary, if our mind is too much working at the end of the day it can make you drain of energy. And at the end of the day, it can make it hard to find sleep. It is unfortunate that many people have problems sleeping despite working out well and eating healthy

To appease the mind it’s good to meditate or use breathing techniques. Studies have shown how it is beneficial

The fact is you can be fit and not so healthy. If you look good in front of people and the mirror but then in your mind or body you feel sluggish or not so happy. Then it’s unfortunate that you haven’t reached a state of healthiness. 

So breathing is important to be healthy and to live happily. Many people don’t know how to breathe. Even when they do sport by the way. I see that in many of you guys when coaching you. 

 

Now, why do I want to talk about the present moment to be healthy and happy? 

 

Cause I feel like that our world is always distracted by what happened out of our sight. Out of ourselves. And that we don’t really live in us, we are losing touch on what is. 

Our mind as we know has the tendency to dwell on what is bad. That’s why I say that it’s a great tool but sometimes we need to just turn it off, breathe, do sport, cook, see our friend, but most importantly, be there now. 

Be there in everything you do. Stop dwelling on the past and future if you want to be healthy and happy. Things past are gone, things coming in are not here yet. What you have now is what there is. Accept this to be healthy and happy. 

With this, it’s good to be positive. But when things are sad, you can cry. You know I love the power of positive thinking, but we cannot always be positive. As we know there are tough times in life and we have to accept our emotions without denying them. Self-development is also this, we need to understand our emotions and let them go. 

 

Just do not dwell on the past and future. To be happy and healthy, be there totally. 

 

It’s hard to reach that state often. But with some activity like practicing sport or going for a walk, you can be into what is a good life: what you have in front of you, yourself connected to the moment. Not connected somewhere else with your phone, tv, or other machines that, don’t get me wrong, are great tools. 

However, the problem is that we are too addicted to them. Yes, the mind loves to be out of ourselves, controlled by dopamine, the hormone that craves for always more. 

Can you just walk and see the beauty of the tree, the sky, and the bird when you go for a walk without thinking too much? Can you have a discussion with someone without thinking about something else? 

As I recommend to many of the clients we have, go for a digital detox. Try to do not to use your phone or any screen after 8 pm. You’ll improve your sleep and your relationship with yourself and the ones around you. 

Try to go for one afternoon or one day a week without your phone. 

That’s a great way to be present now. Be in the present moment to be healthy and happy. 

Keep practicing sport, keep creating, keep doing what makes you happy. 

And be there, connect yourself with the present moment. Do some activity when you are there totally. That will make you healthy and happy.

Thank you.

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Books to read that I recommend:

The power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

Flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi

Check the article I create for it —> Books I love and why

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Past Year review 2020

I know 2020 hasn’t been a great year for many of us. Maybe for the planet in some sort. Not sure. I don’t know. So it was hard for me to decide to do this past year review as, to be honest, my year, luckily and gratefully, has been good. Not easy, but good. Of course, many people have endured a tough year, some people have lost loved one. My kindest regards to you. It was my case in 2019 actually. So I know what it is, I didn’t lose a love one from covid but from cancer. I guess it’s something that we all experience at least once in a lifetime and the more we age the more we need to be prepared for this. Anyway, as I like to keep optimistic and positive I will make a past year review which will reflect this, and as hard as it is there is always a bright side on everything, I believe, I think.

 

Lessons I’ve learned in 2020

 

I don’t know anything

I and you don’t know anything. Everybody talk and talk without knowing. How can you really state what you say? Surrounded by media telling things that we are not sure happening. I’m even not sure we are 8 billions of people in this world anymore. So there are many voices around myself, friend and family, the government etc… And it feels like nobody knows what is really happening, and everybody talks. The only thing I know is that the world is always changing. Impermanence is the truth. That’s the only things we can say is the truth. Without us, no belief can happen, but without us, the world we’ll still be changing, evolving.

 

Love is the biggest force

There is one other thing I learned this year is that love is the biggest force of all.

We’ve been in a year surrounded by fear, anxiety and all the bad forces around us. The fear of losing people, the fear of put in danger others, the fear of losing jobs, finance, etc…

However, love is the strongest, love kills fear. That’s why I was really surprised to see that member of the family can’t kiss each other anymore because of “Covid”. Remove love, and fear wins over us. Never remove love as love is the strongest and can kill all disease.

Read –> The conscious and unconscious forms and how we can be more conscious

 

 

Live the moment

This is tattooed on my chest so I could never forget as I see it in the mirror when I’m facing it topless. The present is the only thing we have and that we can enjoy. The truth is we don’t know if we’ll be there tomorrow, and we don’t need “covid” or any other names to tell us this. But this year, I think we all understand that we can’t predict the future. We see that we adapt to any situation. The human being is pure love and can adapt. But many of us live too much in future and past, even me with my tattoo on my chest. This moment where I write needs to be my only focus, not what I’m going to eat later on or how the world we’ll be in 2021. My only thing is to do my best now when I’m writing to you know. Please let’s stop to plan everything ahead as we can’t. Let’s share the love with what we do, who we are, with who we share our lives.

 

Thought for you

I think it’s important during this time of the year to come back to yourself and to ask yourself what is the biggest lessons you have learned this year. I believe in introspection to know better yourself and to have a better life. So take a moment and ask yourself what are the biggest lessons you learned this year.

 

 

Best Things I did in 2020

 

Biking in Vietnam

In February 2020 I travelled again. I went to Vietnam and met someone special. I was lucky enough to travel before the “covid” stops us to do so. Maybe it has been my last trip with everything tv and people said. Not sure… We’ll see.

With Pret-a-Train and as a CEO, I didn’t make the step to go and travel away as I love doing that but as I was held by my business, my clients, and my “duty”. Duties and responsibilities are good but living life is more important.

So, I needed to travel, to discover again, and to play. Plays allow me to help people better so travelling was great, I bike around Vietnam and I love it. With everything I was lucky to do before, biking in Vietnam was one of the best things I never did, and I was sharing it.

 

Finished my 1st book

In terms of professional level, I finally finished my first book. I wrote many parts of it in Vietnam actually. I was in a good atmosphere to write the 4 elements that I will soon share with you. Writing a book was one of my big dreams and I did it. When I finished it, I cried, I cried from joy to finish something so meaningful for me. Hopefully, it will help many people to be healthy. Being healthy can save us and the environment.

 

Start an online personal training service

In Pret a Train because of “covid”, we started giving online session, keeping the business up during this tough time was important and also keep making people working out. So we’ve been working on giving great session online via video live. I’m so grateful that Pret-a-train can still run during these times. I have a think of all people who been disturbed in their business and professional life. Nonetheless, I believe that they will strike back by doing something maybe more meaningful for them. A touch of hope. Hope and faith are strong forces as well. If I lose Pret a Train he won’t be the end of the world, I will do something else and help differently. Anyway, I’m grateful to have opened a new service. Thanks.

 

Thank you

I’d like to finish by saying thank you. Thank you for all the human kindness. Despite what the media shows, there is a lot of kindness in this world. The human being is kind. Let’s remove the history focus on the present. Let’s see how people stay at home to protect others. Let’s see how we react when we can’t see our family. Feel the love. Always see the beauty. Let’s share the love and always being positive. Flowers always blossom, sun rise and set every day. Life is good. It’s all love.

 

What I’ve you learned yourself and what are you grateful for?

The conscious and unconscious forms and how we can be more conscious

In this article, let’s talk about our conscious and unconscious forms and how we can be more conscious. 

There are a lot of different types and faces of human nature. When we are unconscious we can turn love into fear or rejection. Also, we can turn creativity into laziness or frustration. 

However, when we start to be conscious a new world is opening to us. Love can be found in everything. Beauty is everywhere, and our limiting beliefs become unlimited. This is how being conscious is so much important to share all the types and faces with our world, friends, family, and community. That can change just an individual as it can also change a whole country. 

Remember that we are all energy, all vibration. So let’s get deep into the different forms between conscious and unconscious. In the end, let’s see how we can be more conscious and share this love, this kindness, and this beauty. 

 

Conscious

 

Love

When you are fully conscious, you can see love in everything, in all these forms. Nature, sky, trees, smiles and all human beings. You can find love even in some tough situations. Love is always here. When you’re fully conscious you can appreciate everything more deeply. Go for a walk into nature, or even through a city, look at what has been created, nature created things with love, humans too. Look at that. Look in the eyes of people you like, look at yourself into the mirror. You can perceive love everywhere and in everything. 

 

Creativity

Once you’re conscious, you can easily let the flow of creativity go into you. When you are conscious means that you let more yourself go, you are not locked into frustration or laziness. You open to everything good which can come to your mind. Sometimes letting go of resistance and surrender to things can make you more creative. It’s actually well known that the best inventors in this world had their brilliant ideas during leisure time. When you try too hard, you can put yourself into resistance and lock the flow which is coming to you. And when you let go, the flow can come back.

 

Kindness

When you’re conscious, you can let the proper human being and the wise child you’ve been to take over to your adult seriousness. Then you can show your kindness to the world. Sometimes we are too serious, and again we resist what we are. We give orders, we stand strong and tall and can put pressure on ourselves and others. Again when you’re conscious and let the self that you are, you can spread your kindness, and be good with all your fellows. And especially be good to yourself. Being conscious helps you to be your best friend. You don’t beat yourself up anymore which is a big problem that we can’t find in many people who practice unconscious behaviour. So be conscious, be kind. 

 

Beauty

Beauty is a friend of love. It has been into our field from the beginning. Of course, by watching the news, some try to show you the face of the world which is hostile and can be ugly. But actually, beauty is again everywhere, even when on the screen they show you a hostile world, after that you can find people helping each other, like after any catastrophe for instance. Beauty is part of our conscious, look at a kid, no kid can be ugly, every kid is a beauty, every flower too. As we grow we become unconscious and we start judging everything, but even when a person grows older, or when a plant is fading, beauty is there. 

 

Expansion

A tree, a plant, a human being, is always expanding. Expansion is part of our universe. Many unconscious people are limited and think not much can be extended anymore. But actually, everything has been always expanding and even when we grow older. We are expanding ourselves. 

 

Unlimited

When you’re conscious, expansion is there, then the limits are removed and you become unlimited. You do not need to take any pills or get crazy. So, it’s actually not a movie, even if life can have some similitude at some point but we are always unlimited. Being unlimited it’s part of human nature. We’ve been here for very long, that science tries to find for how, but actually, nobody can say it exactly. It’s been millions of years that energy is given, that heart is beaten, things being created. Things are always changing, evolving and once you’re fully conscious you can really become unlimited. 

 

Receptivity

As an energy field, when you’re conscious, you become more receptive to this field. More receptive to people who come at the right time to your world. You get into this situation that you were waiting for. Once you are conscious you open yourself to be more receptive, you don’t put any resistance, and you are receptive to the flow, to the vibe, to what you need. 

 

Unconscious

Reject all these unconsciousness forms to your life. To live in harmony with it. Here are all forms of unconsciousness that you can notice in yourself and others. Once you notice it, try to not dwell on it. If you notice a friend or anyone doing it. Try to be as much conscious as you can to avoid giving too much energy to the unconsciousness field. Change it to consciousness. 

Let’s see how to avoid the traps of unconsciousness as well and how we can be more conscious:

 

Fear

Fear is a well-known form and face of unconsciousness. This is also the most spread in the world. From history class, transmit to our grandparents coming from WW. TV showing the same face as unconsciousness always. 

As I believe many of us are born into unconsciousness, many of us got to fear from the previous generation. As we can see as a baby or a kid we are just consciousness and seemed to love everything. But when we grow older the fear has been transmitting to us. I can see my little bro and sis watching the news and see the face of unconsciousness each day and night. That’s why we need to be strong and bring consciousness for ourselves, cause if we don’t we can fear everything. Some people are attached to this form without noticing and they are always in the state of fear. Thinking that the world it’s an awful and hostile place.

How can we be more conscious then?

An easy thing to do to break that fear is to be conscious and focus our insight on kindness and love. Go to a forest, a park, with some trees, with some kids, look at pictures of you on your holiday with your family and friends. The world is yours. Choose to be conscious, choose to be love. 

 

Anger 

Did you feel angry and say to yourself after what happened? What am I so mad for? This is when you get off unconscious mode and become conscious. 

You see like fear, anger has been transmitted to us from a very young age, and we realize sometimes that we are out of our head when we get mad at some big or tiny thing. This is just an automated response that we learn from our parents or other situations. It actually comes from our youth most of the time. Sometimes we just copy people that we like. But can you feel this heaviness in your body when you get angry? Can you feel this draining energy or this guiltiness coming after? 

Why being angry where nothing can be resolved with angriness. Being angry it’s just transmitting again the bad method to other people, then you make others unconscious too. 

How can we be more conscious then?

So come back to being conscious, and if you feel very angry, calm down and talk about it. Life is not so damn serious and everything will be sorted out if you accept things or if you resolve what you can by being mindful. 

 

Rejection

Rejection is another form of unconsciousness. As an unconscious person, we can feel rejected, we can see the rejection of everything. We can reject ourselves. For instance, we can beat ourselves up and always say that we are not good enough. We just started learning a new language and because we don’t accept the process we can reject ourselves and say that we are not good and we should not bother. That can be a tough syndrome which can lead to a huge shyness to talk to people and especially a group of people cause we will think we are going to be rejected. Of course, if you reject yourself and not being indulgent with yourself you’ll have difficulties to make friends or accept people as well. You’ll have this poison in you.

Accept things as there are – Love yourself – Get back to consciousness

The key is to get back to consciousness, accept you and things as they are, and look always at the bright side of you, things and people. Be conscious, be creative, love yourself. Love the world, that’s the key. 

 

Limited

So we talk about the unlimited possibilities when we are conscious, as this is the world where we grow. This world shows unlimited form. However, when we are unconscious we can have some limited belief, again we can think that we are not good enough. We see things limited, we have limited judgement onto things. However, we need to be conscious of this unlimitedness around ourselves. All these people before us, this art, this nature which is always growing. Can you see that nothing is limited?  

Be conscious to be more conscious. Don’t be limited. Look at nature and life.

You can do whatever you want, put some cement, be unconscious, get into fear, the world will always be by itself in motion, still growing, always changing. Things are always moving, some people conscious are always creating new things. Be conscious and be part of it, you can do anything. Expand your belief. Read books from people you like. Get interested in our world, on our earth, and look at things in a good perspective. 

 

Frustration

Here’s a big form of unconsciousness, which can be similar to rejection. Here’s frustration, and this is also transmitted to others when we are. Frustrated by us, by people around us. Not believing in yourself in our talent. Frustration can come from other forms like fear. For instance, we fear things and then we are frustrated to not do the things we want to do because of our limited belief. Can you see the loop of this vicious cycle? 

How to be more conscious then?

Break it, become conscious, believe in yourself, the world and people. Don’t be frustrated if you fail at something, be like this pure consciousness as we were when we were baby, fail, cry and get back up again with a smile. 

 

Worry 

Worry, worry, worry, that’s the best form of unconsciousness. Worries are spread into cultures, into countries, worries can come from fear again. This unconscious form and fear are the top forms of unconsciousness. These two can make people sick and make some business grow and become unlimited. Many companies like tv channels play with these two forms to make us buy more food or more medicine. In the end, if we worry too much we send resistance and poison to our body, then we can fall into depression, seeing our world hostile, being suicidal, or having another form of sickness, and then we die. Worry can be a serious disease which has to be taken seriously, and this is why we need to remove worry and this unconsciousness to our life. 

How can we be more conscious then?

Focus on positive things, be conscious, be involved in any activity that you like, be that kid do a puzzle, relax your mind, and you will see how worry can dissipate your mind to your life. 

 

Jealousy 

Jealousy is a form of unconsciousness which can be the brother of worry or greed. When we are unconscious we can have this form of jealousy which can get into any situation. When we see someone succeeding when our ego takes the top on us then we can be jealous of others doing more than ourselves. We can be jealous of our family, friends, for having better conditions, or situations. We can be jealous of our girlfriend, sending poison to her because she is too close to people, this comes from worry. 

How can you be more conscious then?

The best will be to be conscious again, cause anyway putting resistance, as you know, it’s not good for yourself. Believe in you, believe in others. Don’t be jealous, appreciate that some people can succeed because you can too. You are the same so be conscious. 

 

Other forms

There are plenty of other forms that you can find into unconsciousness. Listen to your emotion and your body and when you feel not good, ask yourself: “am I conscious enough right now or am I just being unconscious? 

 

Best tips to be more conscious?

 

Meditate 

When you meditate, you can put everything into perspective. You can let go of things. Being fully conscious, and note all things that make life. Concentrate on your breathing. Here you are alive. Just focus on your breath and your feeling. Turn your mind off or let it go but don’t be plunged into thoughts. And you’ll see that you feel good and there is nothing to dread. You’re fully conscious you are here into the present moment. The more you do, the more you’ll be here and now. Be conscious of your everyday life. 

 

Open-mindedness

Be open to receiving what comes to you. Don’t resist a new encounter, don’t judge, just take what life gives to you. You are consciousness, and everything happens for a reason. 

Learn to open your mind, to open your heart. There you’ll be into your soul, more conscious. 

Look at the situation even though one, by saying what that happens, it might be for a good reason. Life is good. Make sure you know. See the beauty be open to beauty. Be receptive to things coming through your eyes, use your senses. Look at buildings, nature, forests, others, and animals. Be open to life, you’ll get more and more conscious. 

 

No resistance 

This is easy to say but not easy to do. Offer no resistance to nothing. Especially not into you. Our bodies are chemical as you know. If you offer resistance to it, you’ll have poison come into you. That’s not good and it’s a form of unconsciousness. See yourself reacting to the situation with resistance. You are not you, you are unconscious. Be conscious enough to notice this. 

If you do the first two things that I’ve recommended to you, you’ll be conscious enough to see how you can drain on people, yourself, and the situation. Once you notice it, break it by being aware and conscious. 

There are things in life that we can’t predict, and that we can’t do anything about it. So let it go. And focus on having no resistance thoughts. It’s all good. Life has been like that for millions of years and everything is alright. 

 

Practice love 

We are love. Deep into ourselves, we are consciousness. Nobody has no love. People that tend to “show” no love are just unconscious. 

Love is consciousness. Practice love is for instance walking and seeing the beauty around in everything. Plant, trees, road, people, building. If you focus on love. You would see it everywhere. See when a newborn is coming around your life, how love is good. Go to a wedding and see love around. Love is everywhere, we just need to be conscious to see it. 

 

Be focus on any activity

By being focused on any activity that makes you happy and that we like we can be more conscious. We can do gardening, make a puzzle, watch family pictures,  draw, play tennis or football, go for a run. Even working when doing with grace can be a sort of activity which makes you more mindful. 

You see many like me talk about meditation but I actually believe that there are many forms of meditation and everyone can have a sort of meditation which works for him or her. Reading for instance for me can be a form of meditation (depends what topic I read), running too. 

Find your activities which appease you and can make you more conscious. 

 

Be grateful 

Being grateful is an important part of being conscious. The more you are grateful and the more you realize what you already have, and especially what you already are, the more you are conscious. It’s an easy thing to do to feel more connected and to have a form of love and beauty. It’s getting very easy when you set it at a habit to have a gratitude journal and to take a moment a day to say what you are grateful for. You can also talk about it when you’re having dinner with your family or partner, everybody can say one thing they are grateful for. 

It’s a great thing to do, cause sometimes you think there is nothing to be grateful for but actually, there is always something. So, you can be connected to that, to your health, to the people around you, to the sky above your head, to the bed you go at night, or to do food you have the chance to savour every day. Find something to be grateful for every day and I promise you that you’ll feel more conscious and more fulfilled. 

 

Last note

The more conscious you are, the less it will be hard. As hard can become soft, the more you practice, the more you’ll notice. 

Resistance would come in many forms but the more you are conscious the more you’ll be able to notice it and stop all these unconscious forms from coming back to consciousness. Let enter love and all these other forms to make your life and yourself richer. 

Hope that has been helping you to be more conscious.

 

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Believe in yourself – A simple tip to change the world

“Be the change you want to see in the world” – Gandhi

 

Here we are in 2020, here we are after Trump and the COVID. Here we are after a summer where we can fill what is really “global warming”. It was 37 degrés one week ago in London. 

So we are in a world where many catastrophes have happened even if less and less happened nowadays. Yes, here’s a touch of hope and belief.

With all the “good” information we got nowadays, we as human are able to do better choice. We consume majorly different for a few years now. As we have understood that we need to take better care of ourselves and the planet. We think a lot, maybe sometimes too much, about making the right decisions. 

I see a new great generation, I see the beauty in kids and new modern parents. And I believe, as a whole, will make great decisions in our present days for the future. 

So if you read that post I know you’re already participating in changing the world for the better, cause as long as you have the thoughts to do, you do. Thoughts are important. As the book of Dr Wayne Dyer said: “Change your thoughts, change your life”. 

 

Passe le relais

So here I’d like to say: believe in yourself, believe in the world. I know that we can still have some doubts about our future. And I want you to let go all of these doubts. Cause as long as you believe in yourself, you believe in the world. We are particles in this all universe. But every particle connected for the good, change the world, for the best. 

Then we just need to “pass the relais”, which means gets inspired and inspire others to believe in themselves, believe they can do good. Believe that they are a good friend, a good parent, a good consumer, a good worker. We all work for ourselves, and for others. For our family, parents, wife, husband, community. 

Here’s a simple thing: we send vibrations to the world, good vibrations, and doubts are barriers to these vibrations. Remove the doubts, believe in yourself, believe in others and believe in our world. Focus on good things, and don’t let the doubts come in. Look at all the good things you did, focus on all the good things happening and be part of it. Keep it up. 

 

I hope you got something from this post, and I very much hope that you are going to believe in you.

 

Read –> Why Being Healthy Is The Base Of Everything

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